It’s real, it’s not an oxymoron and it’s not a man saying “I respect you” while cleaning the bathroom with out being asked.
There is so much of this stuff around that there are Annual Feminist Porn Awards. This has been running for the last 7 years, with a range of categories
from Sexiest Straight Film, Hottest Trans Scene/Film, to Most Deliciously Diverse Cast.
What is considered feminist porn?
http://goodforher.com/feminist_porn_awards
What makes a movie a Feminist Porn Award winner?
In order to be considered for a Feminist Porn Award, the movie/short/website/whatever! must meet at least one of the following criteria:
1) A woman had a hand in the production, writing, direction, etc. of the work.
2) It depicts genuine female pleasure
3) It expands the boundaries of sexual representation on film and challenges stereotypes that are often found in mainstream porn.
And of course, it has to be hot!
Overall, Feminist Porn Award winners tend to show movies that consider a female viewer from start to finish. This means that you are more likely to see active desire and consent, real orgasms, and women taking control of their own fantasies (even when that fantasy is to hand over that control).
The nominations are for films and for websites, the list of nominees is pretty long and makes for interesting browsing/research.